Children of Hoarders

How to Minimize Conflict, Reduce the Clutter, and Improve Your Relationship
Author: Fugen A. Neziroglu,Katharine Donnelly
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated
ISBN: 9781608824380
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 189
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Discusses the psychological and practical challenges of growing up with a hoarder, including health, safety, and quality-of-life issues, and offers suggestions for effectively communicating with family and navigating available resources.

Children of Hoarders

How to Minimize Conflict, Reduce the Clutter, and Improve Your Relationship
Author: Katharine Donnelly,Fugen Neziroglu
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608824403
Category: Psychology
Page: 200
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Growing up with a hoarder can be a confusing, painful, and sometimes dangerous experience. And when it comes to finding help for a hoarder parent, many adult children find themselves taking on the exhausting role of caretaker. As the child of a hoarder, you may be wondering what resources are available to you. Written by nationally recognized obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) expert Fugen Neziroglu, a regular on the popular TLC television series, Hoarders, Children of Hoarders explores strategies for communicating with hoarder parents and outlines practical intervention skills. In addition, the book shows readers how to let go of the personal shame and guilt associated with being the child of a hoarder. Using mindfulness, acceptance, assertiveness and validation skills, this is the first book written specifically for adult children of hoarders that focuses on the interpersonal effects of hoarding. Inside, you will learn to communicate with your loved ones in a way that minimizes conflict, while still dealing with the logistical and organizational issues that arise when living with or witnessing hoarding behavior. The book also includes tips for reclaiming living space, strategies for ensuring that the health and safety of residents is not compromised by the hoarder’s living conditions, and organizational tactics for sorting through the clutter after the death of a parent who hoards. As the child of a hoarder, sometimes it can be helpful to know that you are not alone. In Children of Hoarders, you will get the support that you need to deal with your hoarder parent, and reclaim your own life in the process.

Dirty Secret

A Daughter Comes Clean About Her Mother's Compulsive Hoarding
Author: Jessie Sholl
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 9781439192535
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 336
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A fascinating look at compulsive hoarding by a woman whose mother suffers from the disease. To be the child of a compulsive hoarder is to live in a permanent state of unease. Because if my mother is one of those crazy junk-house people, then what does that make me? When her divorced mother was diagnosed with cancer, New York City writer Jessie Sholl returned to her hometown of Minneapolis to help her prepare for her upcoming surgery and get her affairs in order. While a daunting task for any adult dealing with an aging parent, it’s compounded for Sholl by one lifelong, complex, and confounding truth: her mother is a compulsive hoarder. Dirty Secret is a daughter’s powerful memoir of confronting her mother’s disorder, of searching for the normalcy that was never hers as a child, and, finally, cleaning out the clutter of her mother’s home in the hopes of salvaging the true heart of their relationship—before it’s too late. Growing up, young Jessie knew her mother wasn’t like other mothers: chronically disorganized, she might forgo picking Jessie up from kindergarten to spend the afternoon thrift store shopping. Now, tracing the downward spiral in her mother’s hoarding behavior to the death of a long-time boyfriend, she bravely wades into a pathological sea of stuff: broken appliances, moldy cowboy boots, twenty identical pairs of graying bargain-bin sneakers, abandoned arts and crafts, newspapers, magazines, a dresser drawer crammed with discarded eyeglasses, shovelfuls of junk mail . . . the things that become a hoarder’s “treasures.” With candor, wit, and not a drop of sentimentality, Jessie Sholl explores the many personal and psychological ramifications of hoarding while telling an unforgettable mother-daughter tale.

Dream Hoarders

How the American Upper Middle Class Is Leaving Everyone Else in the Dust, Why That Is a Problem, and What to Do About It
Author: Richard V. Reeves
Publisher: Brookings Institution Press
ISBN: 0815735499
Category: Political Science
Page: 240
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Dream Hoarders sparked a national conversation on the dangerous separation between the upper middle class and everyone else. Now in paperback and newly updated for the age of Trump, Brookings Institution senior fellow Richard Reeves is continuing to challenge the class system in America. In America, everyone knows that the top 1 percent are the villains. The rest of us, the 99 percent—we are the good guys. Not so, argues Reeves. The real class divide is not between the upper class and the upper middle class: it is between the upper middle class and everyone else. The separation of the upper middle class from everyone else is both economic and social, and the practice of “opportunity hoarding”—gaining exclusive access to scarce resources—is especially prevalent among parents who want to perpetuate privilege to the benefit of their children. While many families believe this is just good parenting, it is actually hurting others by reducing their chances of securing these opportunities. There is a glass floor created for each affluent child helped by his or her wealthy, stable family. That glass floor is a glass ceiling for another child. Throughout Dream Hoarders, Reeves explores the creation and perpetuation of opportunity hoarding, and what should be done to stop it, including controversial solutions such as ending legacy admissions to school. He offers specific steps toward reducing inequality and asks the upper middle class to pay for it. Convinced of their merit, members of the upper middle class believes they are entitled to those tax breaks and hoarded opportunities. After all, they aren’t the 1 percent. The national obsession with the super rich allows the upper middle class to convince themselves that they are just like the rest of America. In Dream Hoarders, Reeves argues that in many ways, they are worse, and that changes in policy and social conscience are the only way to fix the broken system.

Digging Out

Helping Your Loved One Manage Clutter, Hoarding & Compulsive Acquiring
Author: Michael A. Tompkins,Tamara L. Hartl
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1572245948
Category: Psychology
Page: 188
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Discusses preventive measures and treatments for compulsive hoarding, in a book designed to help loved ones of hoarders use harm reduction to aid hoarders in living a safe and comfortable life.

The Secret Lives of Hoarders

True Stories of Tackling Extreme Clutter
Author: Matt Paxton,Phaedra Hise
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101514884
Category: Self-Help
Page: 256
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On the front lines with extreme hoarders The Secret Lives of Hoarders is much more than harrowing tales of attacking the ugliest, dirtiest, and most shocking hoarding cases in the country. It is a behind-the-scenes look at this hidden epidemic- what it means, how to recognize it before it gets out of hand, and how to deal with it. Through his work with hundreds of clients in the worst circumstances- from the giant "rat's nest" that hid more than $13,000 in cash to a vast cache of cartoon pornography to twenty-five years' worth of unopened mail-Matt Paxton has learned to understand this disorder and his clients' impulses to collect, to speak the hoarders' language, and to reach out to them with compassion and concern while avoiding criticism and judgment. Most important, he guides compulsive hoarders successfully through every step of the clean-up and healing process. The Secret Lives of Hoarders is an engrossing and sometimes unsettling look at extreme clutter but one that helps hoarders, their families, and their friends to find meaning in the chaos.

Overcoming Compulsive Hoarding

Why You Save and How You Can Stop
Author: Jerome Bubrick,Fugen Neziroglu,Jose Yaryura-Tobias
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608822516
Category: Psychology
Page: 160
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Although the much-satirized image of a house overflowing with National Geographics and infested with cats may make us chuckle, the reality of compulsive hoarding is no laughing matter. The most common reason for evictions in the US and a significant risk factor for fatal house fires, compulsive hoarding is a treatable condition related to obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is characterized by the acquisition of possessions that have little or no value, which the sufferer, often referred to as the saver, has great difficulty discarding. This book, the first ever written for savers and their families, provides an overview of compulsive hoarding and how it relates to obsessive-compulsive disorder. It discusses hoarding broadly, offering readers perspectives on the physical, behavioral, and value-oriented aspects of the condition. You can use its assessment tools to help decide why you or your loved one hoards. Skill-building exercises help you determine how to beat the hoarding problem by addressing issues that often underlie compulsive saving. Even though this is fundamentally a self-help book, it contains a frank discussion about the need for professional help in some hoarding cases, how to find it, and what medications have been proven effective for savers.

Stuff

Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things
Author: Gail Steketee,Randy Frost
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
ISBN: 0547487258
Category: Psychology
Page: 304
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A thoughtfully researched and fascinating appraisal of what happens when our stuff starts to own us What possesses someone to save every scrap of paper that’s ever come into his home? What compulsions drive a person to sacrifice her marriage or career for an accumulation of seemingly useless things? Randy Frost and Gail Steketee were the first to study hoarding when they began their work a decade ago. They didn't expect that they would end up treating hundreds of patients and fielding thousands of calls from the families of hoarders. Their vivid case studies (reminiscent of Oliver Sacks) in Stuff show how you can identify a hoarder—piles on sofas and beds that make the furniture useless, houses that can be navigated only by following small paths called goat trails, vast piles of paper that the hoarders “churn” but never discard, even collections of animals and garbage—and illuminate the pull that possessions exert over all of us. Whether we’re savers, collectors, or compulsive cleaners, very few of us are in fact free of the impulses that drive hoarders to extremes.

The Hoarder in You

How to Live a Happier, Healthier, Uncluttered Life
Author: Robin Zasio
Publisher: Rodale Books
ISBN: 1609611322
Category: Self-Help
Page: 240
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From the hit A&E show Hoarders, psychologist Dr. Robin Zasio shows readers how to take control of their stuff and de-clutter their lives. Recently, the once little-known condition of hoarding has become a household phrase--in part due to the popularity of the Emmy Award-winning television show Hoarders, which has captivated audiences with its stark and heartbreaking look at the people who suffer from this paralyzing condition. Contributing expert to Hoarders, Dr. Robin Zasio believes that our fascination with hoarding stems from the fact that most of us fall somewhere on the hoarding continuum. In The Hoarder in You, Dr. Zasio shares behind-the-scenes stories from the show, including some of the most serious cases of hoarding that she's encountered--and explains how readers can learn from these extreme examples. She also shares psychological and practical advice for de-cluttering and organizing, including how to tame the emotional pull of acquiring additional things, make order out of chaos by getting a handle on cluter, and create an organizational system that reduces stress and anxiety.

Coming Clean


Author: Sue Margolis
Publisher: NY Books
ISBN: N.A
Category:
Page: N.A
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Dirty Little Secrets


Author: C. J. Omololu
Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA
ISBN: 9780802722546
Category: Juvenile Fiction
Page: 224
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Everyone has a secret. But Lucy's is bigger and dirtier than most. It's one she's been hiding for years-that her mom's out-of-control hoarding has turned their lives into a world of garbage and shame. She's managed to keep her home life hidden from her best friend and her crush, knowing they'd be disgusted by the truth. So, when her mom dies suddenly in their home, Lucy hesitates to call 911 because revealing their way of life would make her future unbearable-and she begins her two-day plan to set her life right. With details that are as fascinating as they are disturbing, C. J. Omololu weaves an hour-by-hour account of Lucy's desperate attempt at normalcy. Her fear and isolation are palpable as readers are pulled down a path from which there is no return, and the impact of hoarding on one teen's life will have readers completely hooked.

Diary of a Hoarder's Daughter


Author: Izabelle Winter
Publisher: Lulu Press, Inc
ISBN: 1326408801
Category: Biography & Autobiography
Page: N.A
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Reality of life from the daughter of a hoarder. Have you seen 'Hoarders' on TV? Now read what it's really like to live with one for 25 years. Why are Christmas lights up in July? How long can a tin of tomatoes be kept before it explodes? Why does a man with two feet need 173 shoes? One day, years after I moved out, fate forced me to return to re-live the childhood which I'd once considered normal. With fresh eyes I discover things that should have stayed buried and a few shocking truths about my own childhood.

Validate Me! (How My Mom's Hoarding Kind of Messed Me Up.)


Author: Melissa Patton
Publisher: Lulu Press, Inc
ISBN: 1329425049
Category: Self-Help
Page: N.A
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Compulsive hoarding damages house structures, threatens safety and health, drains bank accounts, and estranges a hoarder from the rest of society. It goes way beyond just saving stuff. It goes deeper than just being a pack-rat. It is a very real disorder, and it affects more than the hoarder. In this brief memoir, Melissa shares her struggles growing up as the daughter of a hoarder, her reality TV experience and the events that followed, and her journey through the therapy she did not realize she needed. "Validate Me! (How my mom's hoarding kind of messed me up.)" opens your eyes to the most important “things” that get destroyed under the piles.

Beyond Blue

Surviving Depression & Anxiety and Making the Most of Bad Genes
Author: Therese Borchard
Publisher: Center Street
ISBN: 1599952734
Category: Psychology
Page: 288
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Therese Borchard may be one of the frankest, funniest people on the planet. That, combined with her keen writing abilities has made her Beliefnet blog, Beyond Blue, one of the most trafficked blogs on the site. BEYOND BLUE, the book, is part memoir/part self-help. It describes Borchard's experience of living with manic depression as well as providing cutting-edge research and information on dealing with mood disorders. By exposing her vulnerability, she endears herself immediately to the reader and then reduces even the most depressed to laughter as she provides a companion on the journey to recovery and the knowledge that the reader is not alone. Comprised of four sections and twenty-one chapters, BEYOND BLUE covers a wide range of topics from codependency to addiction, poor body image to postpartum depression, from alternative medicine to psychopharmacology, managing anxiety to applying lessons from therapy. Because of her laser wit and Erma Bombeck sense of humor, every chapter is entertaining as well as serious.

White Dresses

A Memoir of Love and Secrets, Mothers and Daughters
Author: Mary Pflum Peterson
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0062386980
Category: Biography & Autobiography
Page: 352
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In this riveting, poignant memoir of three generations of women and the white dresses that adorned them—television producer Mary Pflum Peterson recounts a journey through loss and redemption, and her battle to rescue her mother, a former nun, from compulsive hoarding. As a successful television journalist at Good Morning America, Mary Pflum is known as a polished and highly organized producer. It’s a persona at odds with her tortured childhood, where she watched her emotionally vulnerable mother fill their house with teetering piles of assorted “treasures.” But one thing has always united mother and daughter—their love of white dresses. From the dress worn by Mary’s mother when she became a nun and married Jesus, to the wedding gown she donned years later, to the special nightshirts she gifted Mary after the birth of her children, to graduation dresses and christening gowns, these white dresses embodied hope and new beginnings. After her mother’s sudden death in 2010, Mary digs deep to understand the events that led to Anne’s unraveling. At twenty-one, Anne entered a convent, committed to a life of prayer and helping others. But lengthy periods of enforced fasting, isolation from her beloved students, and constant humiliation eventually drove her to flee the convent almost a decade later. Hoping to find new purpose as a wife and mother, Anne instead married an abusive, closeted gay man—their eventual divorce another sign of her failure. Anne retreats into chaos. By the time Mary is ten, their house is cluttered with broken appliances and stacks of unopened mail. Anne promises but fails to clean up for Mary’s high school graduation party, where Mary is being honored as her school’s valedictorian, causing her perfectionist daughter’s fear and shame to grow in tandem with the heaps upon heaps of junk. In spite of everything, their bond endures. Through the white dresses, pivotal events in their lives are celebrated, even as Mary tries in vain to save Anne from herself. Unflinchingly honest, insightful, and compelling, White Dresses is a beautiful, powerful story—and a reminder of the unbreakable bonds between mothers and daughters.

Compulsive Hoarding and Acquiring


Author: Gail Steketee,Randy O. Frost
Publisher: Oxford University Press
ISBN: 0198041071
Category: Psychology
Page: 240
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The problem of compulsive hoarding and acquiring is more widespread than commonly believed. It often goes undiagnosed, either because sufferers are ashamed of their compulsions or because they dont believe it is a problem that merits professional attention. As much as two percent of the U.S. population suffers secretly from this condition. However, compulsive hoarding can be an emotionally exhausting, uncontrollable, and sometimes dangerous problem. Written by the developers of this groundbreaking treatment, this manual is the first to present an empirically supported and effective CBT program for treating compulsive hoarding and acquiring. This guide gives clinicians the information to understand hoarding and proven tools to help clients overcome their compulsive behaviors. It teaches individuals how to recognize errors in thinking and uses both imagined and real exposures to teach them the skills they need to manage their problem. Home visits by the clinician are a part of the treatment, as well as consultations with other professionals who might assist if necessary. Homework exercises include behavioral experiments to test personal beliefs about possessions, developing an organization plan and filing system, and sorting and organizing items room-by-room. Designed to be used in conjunction with the corresponding workbook, this therapist guide provides numerous assessment and intervention forms to help clients use the methods described in this program. Complete with case examples and strategies for dealing with problems, this user-friendly guide is a dependable resource that no clinician can do without. TreatmentsThatWorkTM represents the gold standard of behavioral healthcare interventions! · All programs have been rigorously tested in clinical trials and are backed by years of research · A prestigious scientific advisory board, led by series Editor-In-Chief David H. Barlow, reviews and evaluates each intervention to ensure that it meets the highest standard of evidence so you can be confident that you are using the most effective treatment available to date · Our books are reliable and effective and make it easy for you to provide your clients with the best care available · Our corresponding workbooks contain psychoeducational information, forms and worksheets, and homework assignments to keep clients engaged and motivated · A companion website (www.oup.com/us/ttw) offers downloadable clinical tools and helpful resources · Continuing Education (CE) Credits are now available on select titles in collaboration with PsychoEducational Resources, Inc. (PER)

Buried in Treasures

Help for Compulsive Acquiring, Saving, and Hoarding
Author: David Tolin,Randy O. Frost,Gail Steketee
Publisher: Oxford University Press
ISBN: 0199329273
Category: Psychology
Page: 200
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While most people find it relatively easy to manage their possessions, some find it extremely difficult. If you have a problem resisting the urge to acquire and you find your home cluttered and filled to capacity with items many people would find useless and unnecessary, you may suffer from a condition known as hoarding disorder. Hoarding is a behavioral problem consisting of clutter, difficulty discarding items, and excessive buying or acquiring. Hoarding is often associated with significant reduction in quality of life, and in extreme cases, it can pose serious health risks. If you or a loved one has hoarding disorder, this book can help. This fully updated Second Edition of Buried in Treasures outlines a scientifically based, effective program for helping those with hoarding disorder dig their way out of the clutter and chaos of their homes. Written by scientists and practioners who are leaders in studying and treating hoarding disorder, this book outlines a program of skill-building, learning to think about possessions in a different way, and gradual challenges to help people manage their clutter and their lives. It also provides useful information for family and friends of people who hoard, as they struggle to understand and help. Discover the reasons for your problems with acquiring, saving, and hoarding, and learn new ways of thinking about your possessions so you can decide what you really need and what you can do without. Learn to identify the "bad guys" that cause and maintain your hoarding behavior and meet the "good guys" who can help motivate you and put you on the path to change. Useful self-assessments will help you determine the severity of your problem. Training exercises, case examples, organizing tips, and motivation boosters help change the way you think and behave toward your possessions. This book provides easy-to-understand strategies and techniques that anyone can use.

Where the Sun Don’t Shine and the Shadows Don’t Play

Growing Up with an Obsessive-Compulsive Hoarder
Author: Frances Boudreaux
Publisher: iUniverse
ISBN: 1462034489
Category: Family & Relationships
Page: 252
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As a child growing up in a small Louisiana town, Frances Boudreaux couldn’t understand her mother’s obsession with stuff. She stashed clothes, trash, and even worthless trinkets. It was only years later that Frances discovered the truth about her mother: she was an obsessive-compulsive hoarder. Brutally honest and emotionally-wrenching, Where the Sun Don’t Shine and the Shadows Don’t Play shares a daughter’s struggle to comprehend her mother’s fall from happy teenager to house-bound adult living in the midst of filth and chaos. Spanning her childhood during the 1950s through her adulthood years, Frances traces the rise of her mother’s obsessive compulsive disorder and speaks candidly about the abuse she suffered at her mother’s hands. A story rich in emotional complexity, this gripping memoir throws back the curtain on one family’s dark secret, and exposes the truth in all its facets. But even more, it reveals Frances’s determination to find healing and peace despite the scars of the past. “Ms. Boudreaux allows the reader to experience the full gamut of intense, complex, and contradictory emotions of love, hate, fear, tenderness, caring, revulsion, anger, affection, hope, and despair that she experienced. This is a brilliant and moving book, to be read and never forgotten.” —Bruce Mansbridge, PhD

Zen of Hoarding


Author: N.A
Publisher: Saira Priest
ISBN: 0972662898
Category: Health & Fitness
Page: 256
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The Emancipation of a Buried Man


Author: Eddy Gilmore
Publisher: Eddy Gilmore
ISBN: 9780692410622
Category:
Page: 310
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A child of a hoarder-an outcast growing up amid shocking squalor-finds purpose in this vivid memoir. Broken, alone and buried in a house full of junk and shame, Eddy Gilmore takes the "normal" route out-institutionalized learning. But when college life fails to offer meaning, the young man reaches a turning point, a point at which he abandons social norms, abandons the status quo, and strikes out on his own. A lifetime of adventure packed into a nine-month "gestational" period awaits: face-to-face encounters with wildlife, a devastating monsoon, a magical winter near the Canadian border, the kindness of strangers. Gilmore's quest for knowledge and wisdom through experience, adventure, faith, and books will engage you as the author comes to fully experience the world for the first time.